Thriving Mindfully

Category: Responsibility (Page 3 of 3)

A hack to become humble

There is something special about meeting your first teachers, isn’t it?
Whenever I meet one of my teachers who I learnt from as I child, I become that child again! I can feel the respect and gratitude I have for my teachers for their patience and faith.
The interaction just leaves me humble and eager to grow.

I met my first drum teacher a few days ago. And even though I have been playing for close to a decade now, when I see him I am still the reticent boy I was when I went to the first class with him.
I had a dream in my eyes to become a great drummer.
I felt humbled and grateful being around him.

I realized that as an exercise, we should routinely meet such people. Teachers who have seen us grow, fall, rise up and try again. Not only would it make us more eager to learn but will also keep us grounded.

And how can we forget the first teacher our life?

Our Mother.

I feel that in the interest of cultivating love, gratitude and humility in our heart,

We should meet our mothers more often ! 🙂

Episode or Advertisement?

Quite often we postpone what could be done right now to a point in near future. It’s not that we cannot do what needs to be done right now. We just give ourselves the leisure to indulge in something that could rather wait.
Relate this to how a TV serial is telecast. There’s the episode and then there’s the ads. If it were upto us, we would surely do away with the ads. They merely fill up time in between the slots we really want to watch.
If our life were a TV serial telecast, we quite often choose to live in the ‘ad space’ and not the ‘episode phase’.
If we choose to live like that then our life would carry no message at all, would it?
In the age of Netflix, when TV programming has moved past the old paradigm of ads, we should follow suit in the way we lead our lives.
We should always be mindful,
That a meaningful episode is much more memorable than a passing ad.

It’s best to do what truly matters,
what really needs to be done,
now !

What do you think ?

Name and Identity

I’ve been preparing for my bicycle trip for the past month. One of my kind friends let me have his old bike to use for the trip. Since the bike needed quite a bit of work to be in running condition, I took it to a bicycle shop to get it fixed.
Over the course of the month I would drop in many times to check on it. The mechanics were very friendly and they helped me in the best way they could.
There was one little hang up with my interaction with them though. I was quite sure they didn’t know me by my name.
And this suspense went on till the day I left. It was funny to find them navigate their way through the conversation without having to call me by my name.

As I start my bicycle trip today, I got wondering about this situation. It would be nice to be called by my name. But do I want to be remembered just by my name?
Or by my physical appearance?
I wish to be remembered for my human qualities. I would like to embody the best of me in all the interactions in daily life.
I’d strive to be kind, compassionate and helpful in the small everyday things that pass by as trivial to us all.
It would be enough for me to be known as a kind and helpful person.
Thinking like this also relieves me of the anxiety of not being remembered by my name. It encourages me to take the responsibility to represent the best version of myself.
I remember someone wise once remarked, ‘What ‘s in a name ?’
Indeed I say.

Love and Responsibility

There are big tasks and there are small ones. But there is one thing that should not be compromised in the guise of big and small. It is the act of being responsible.

We have a tendency to attribute more respect to someone who does a big task and think lowly of the person who does the small stuff. Say, a white collar manager gets much more respect than a blue collar floor worker in a factory.

With how much love do we do what we do matters much more than big and small after all.
We can do small things with great love.
Think of a gardener tending to a resplendent garden. It brings joy to every onlooker!

Responsibility can only come when you have love for something.
It is the reason men become more responsible once they have a family.

And that’s why it is of paramount importance to do what you love.
Love and responsibility go hand in hand after all.
How else would we build a responsible global community !?

On Reassurance

Today was a busy workday. As I drew close to the end of working hours in our community, I rested myself under the shade of a mango tree for a break. I looked to the left to see who the chef in the kitchen was. I saw my sister cooking and I couldn’t help but smile. I knew deep inside that I will get a delicious meal for lunch. And I found more energy to finish the rest of my work.
Just her presence reassured me that everything will be all right.

It got me wondering about how we too have the opportunity to be reassuring. Throughout our existence we shoulder some kind of a responsibility. If we build a formidable reputation , so that people can count on us, then our existence magnifies in value.

One can always judge the worth of his contribution by how much reassurance he can give to his team, just by his presence.

The lunch was amazing by the way. And all the hard work was truly worth it.

Age and Technology

In the past few years we have faced the in-surge of technology like never before in history. As a young adult it was an imperative to follow along and assimilate these essentials of modern lifestyle. Yet, among elder folk I sensed some hesitation with emerging technology. For them it is too much information to handle. A smartphone is too magical to demystify.
I found my parents learning the ropes of new tech at their leisure as situation demanded.
But I also sensed that I did not take as much of an enthusiastic initiative to educate them as they did when I was learning as a child.

We often relegate the learning ability of the elderly. We think that curiosity, wonder and fascination are traits found exclusively is kids. But off late I realised that it is even more fascinating to see an elderly person learn something they thought they would never be able to. A kid can learn to make a video call in no time. That’s the reality he grows up with. But for an elderly grandmother to wrap her head around the fact that she can speak in real time with her granddaughter and watch her in live video would indeed seem wizardly. To imagine a new paradigm and learn to be a part of it would be like a new awakening to the elderly.
I remember the first time I booked a cab with my smartphone, my father couldn’t believe it was possible. To watch him is utter disbelief at that moment and then see him learn to do the same over the course of time was amazing to witness.

I realised how it is even more fascinating to watch the older folk in awe. And it is our duty to expand the purview of their understanding of the modern world.
That’s the least we can do as a mark of gratitude for the countless things we learnt from them.

It is never too late to learn. And it is an honor to be able to teach and share. One grows old when he stops learning. The longevity of the elders we love is in a way in our hands.

I sign off with sincere hope of receiving a video call from my mother.

On privileges and responsibility

Morning. My friend’s two year old nephew, brimful of unbridled energy is running around. He is wearing a warm sweater and a rabbit shaped winter cap on his bobbing head. His dutiful grandma is chasing him with delicious food fresh out of the kitchen.
Witnessing this wonderful moment of his childhood my brother turned to me and expressed,
‘ What an amazing life this little boy has. He has all that he needs, food, clothes, a home, plenty of toys, a loving family and all the time in the world. And he doesn’t even know about his privileges and won’t even remember this idyllic period of his life! How blissfully unaware he is !’

I smiled, and couldn’t help but wonder,
Back home, we have all the food we need, good clothes, a loving family and the time to do whatever we want. We have access to technology and the freedom to create what we want. We are just as privileged as the kid and our freedom of thought and action could emancipate us even further.

Yet, we choose to be unaware of these privileges. And unlike the blissfully unaware state of mind of a child, our unawareness makes us anxious.
From another person’s point of view we are extremely privileged. If you are reading this right now, you are more privileged than 80 percent of the world who does not have the means to access this information.

So the question is, are we sentient enough to realise our privileges and brave enough to take up the responsibility to make something out of the opportunity we have.

There are enough problems to fix, ample opportunities to make our world a better place. The onus is on us !

Mirrors

I have been living in a community for the past 18 months. I still remember that when I was new here, I noticed that there weren’t many mirrors around.
Over time I got used to their absence. And I got used to looking around more rather than looking at myself in a mirror.
In the process, I started noticing things I could change.

All of a sudden, I would find sweeping the alleys worthwhile. I’d find fixes for the tiny problems around the community. Because of the absence of mirrors , the sense of my ‘self’ extended much beyond my physical existence. I felt that the place around me was also a representation of myself. And I started doing things I could to better my surroundings.

I realized that our surroundings mirror our spirit. If we have a clear, compassionate soul, our surroundings both animate and inanimate will bear a reflection of it.

And it is important to realize that the only person looking at us in the mirror is our self. But our surroundings, a reflection of our inner beauty, is open for all to witness.

So, I choose to brush the pavement before I brush my hair.

The mirror can wait.

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